As a father of 3 daughters, I think I understand your perspective.
But one of the issues of this whole story is that the struggle you are talking about, has been misdirected toward a man who was not sexist, mysogin or transphobic at all... just weird.
It's a long story, and I do not want to annoy you if you don't care about the details, but well known feminists and transpeople (and even several women that I personally know and know #RMS
by decades) have either signed the letter in his defence or publicly wrote against this attack to his person.
I could provide you a few link but you find most interesting ones https://stallmansupport.org/articles-in-support-of-richard-stallman.html
You can trust my words or not, but you can easily check that even the attackers have retracted some their accusations to reduce the legal risks for the signers https://rms-open-letter.github.io/appendix
So here is the thing: the alligations against Stallman are false.
And yet, they managed to force him to resign from FSF 2 years ago and now that he is coming back, they raised this new campaign again.
And if you look at the organizations that signed the harrassing letter early, you will notice how many have BigTech among their platinum sponsors (Google in particular)
Since 2013 FSFE (that joined the lynching mob early with their own letter) takes more than 10% (but less than 20%) of its whole income from #Google
So ultimately the struggle of women and trans working in IT (and in #FreeSoftware
in particular) has been weaponized to target a single man.
Now I'm happy to stay on the struggle, but here we have to ask which one?
The one strumentalized and weaponized or the one of the victim of such attack?
I'd argue: both!
But in this hatred climate it's very difficult to talk with the people whose suffering has been weaponized.
And this is heart-breaking.
And dangerous, I think.
Because it won't fix problems, but hide them.
Anyway... thanks for your link, I'll read as soon as possible.
And if you want to talk about the struggles of women in tech and how they could be addressed, I'm very interested.